We ask ourselves these questions like, ‘What is the meaning of life?”, or
Why are certain things the way they are? What does it all mean? What does life mean and what else is there?
The search for meaning is what it all boils down to.
What’s life all about? Is this all there is? What is my purpose? What am I suppose to be doing?
I don’t have all the answers (yet)…but let me share a story with you.
Years ago (2006), I met a complete stranger by chance and this chance encounter changed the course of my life forever.
I was attending a business conference in Chicago and he was manning a booth outside of the main room.
All the booths were incredibly busy, except for his.
It was as if his booth had a no-fly zone around it. Lots of busy people scurrying around him, but no one at his booth at all.
We’ve all seen those booths. Typically a product or a service that no one is interested in, or something like that.
Being the gregarious trendsetter that I am, and always looking for a different adventure (the Sagittarius in me), I walked past all the others and straight to his booth.
Looking back today, I now realize that I was meant to run into him. I had no idea the impact this chance encounter was going to have on my life years later.
He turned out to be a hypnotist. His flyers and booth signage said that he did hypnosis. Ahhh! That’s why no one was near him. I guess no one wanted to be clucking like chickens for the rest of the conference.
How about me? Yup, I wanted to cluck like a chicken.
I started a conversation with him, and I could tell he was so happy to have someone in front of his table. In the first few seconds of meeting him, I wasn’t all that impressed. But I took his card and a brochure, because I was looking for something.
I’m not sure what I was looking for at the time. I just knew I was looking. I was looking for some meaning, a purpose, a reason.
I was looking for an answer to my questions about life.
What is the Meaning of Life? What’s My Purpose? Is This All There is?
Peach or Nectarine? Whats the difference? Should you live a life that you feel is just normal like everyone else? Or can you live a life that you define yourself and that gives you so much satisfaction that you have to pinch yourself each day to make sure you’re not dreaming?
I hadn’t found it at work, I hadn’t found it at home, I hadn’t found it with my friends…maybe just maybe, the answer might be somewhere I hadn’t thought to look before?
So I was reading his flyer while sitting in my car inside the parking garage at the O’Hare Hyatt. One sentence jumped out at me.
“I teach people how to unlock the hidden potential they have inside.”
Something hit me at that moment. I’ve read all the self-help books. I’ve read all the sales and success manuals. But nothing’s worked for me. I can’t afford to go see Tony Robbins or Dr. Phil.
Maybe this hypnotist guy has something that could be a little different?
Long-story short, I called him when I got back to my office and left him a voicemail on his phone. I made an appointment to see him at his office. After my hypnosis session with him later that week, and I left with some cd’s and a feeling like I didn’t get much out of it and that maybe I didn’t have any seeds of potentials of inside me to bring out. I was also out $100 bucks for my hour session.
I didn’t come out of there clucking like a chicken or speaking different languages. But what I did notice was that I felt rested and relaxed like a bear coming out of hibernation.
It took a few days until I started to realize that for the first time in a long time, I was in a good mood and had a really rosy attitude. I actually felt good about life, about my business, my clients, and I had a positive outlook on my future because I felt I was in control of it.
Where did all this positivity come from?
Maybe the meaning of life for me was to just start feeling good about things?
Two days later, a dear friend of mine, Fred, told me he was going through a really hard time, stressed-out, problems with his business, needing to figure things out etc. etc.
I didn’t know what to say to him and just shared with him some of my thoughts and advice. Towards the end of our conversation, I casually mentioned that I had a hypnosis session which relaxed me and maybe he should call him. I gave him the guys number and never thought about it again.
I didn’t find out until months later that my friend’s life was literally saved by that hypnotist.
Today, my friend Fred Kutchins is now a popular and well known certified hypnotist in Chicago himself. He got involved in the vocation and found his calling straight-away. He is a practitioner of many different and very specialized areas of cognitive and functional therapies, and is now a noted speaker and teacher of teachers. He publishes a new magazine called Hypnology, and he is a subject-matter expert on many topics within the personal development and cognitive growth fields.
Fred tells me that I saved his life by telling him to talk to that hypnotist that one particular day.
His wife has even told me I saved his life, and that I saved their marriage.
I had no idea.
I never thought that a casual, by-the-way suggestion could impact somebody’s life so dramatically.
And that’s not the best part of this story.
Here is the the irony that proves to me that life has a strange way of showing you what it’s all about and what is important.
You see, in return for saving his life, Fred was adamant about giving me free unlimited lifetime counseling sessions and lots of his time if I ever needed it.
I never saw it coming, but did I ever need his help later.
Fast forward to 2009 when the markets fell and the housing crisis was in it’s full glory, I was in the middle of a house-of-cards that seemed to be falling down all around me. I watched many friends, colleagues and clients get completely destroyed financially and emotionally.
And I would have been one of them had it not been for my friend Fred.
I had lost hope, lost my way, lost my business, lost my house, my car, my family moved away, lost my dog, slept on a sleeping bag, had a stress-induced heart attack and was severely depressed.
Fred saved me.
He was my sounding block, my emotional Rock of Gibraltar. He put me back on the path of life, with focus and determination to pick myself up, dust myself off, and keep fighting the fight and move forward one step at a time.
He got me to calm down and relax and find the inner strength that we all have inside of us. Finding the inner strength to stay “in the game” lead me to one opportunity, which led to another, and yet another.
I’ll always be a work in progress, but today I am I am stable, strong and very happy. If it weren’t for my family and friends, and especially for Fred, I know I wouldn’t be here today.
So that brings me back to the question: What’s it all about? What is the meaning of life?
The answer is in the form of another question.
What are you doing to have a positive effect on the lives of others?
One thing I have learned is that your life does not become significant until you serve and help others.
Your life doesn’t have as much meaning until you are living for something bigger than yourself. Sure your life can be meaningful, but you’ll never have the overwhelming feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction until you provide that for someone else or for many others.
Because it all comes back to you.
What you put out into the world is exactly what you get. Call it Kharma or call it The law of Attraction, or whatever. The universal law of reciprocation works for everyone the same way.
If you pay attention and care for your car, it will serve you. If you don’t it will probably break down on you. If you pay attention and nurture your money, it will serve you back. Same with your relationships and every other aspect of life, regardless of what it is. If you give life meaning, then life will give you meaning.
What you focus on is what you get back.
If you live your life in fear of losing things or if you are focused on what’s lacking in your life, then life will always be taking things away form you and it will always seem like there is not enough.
And like most of the universal laws, you must give first. You must be the one to add energy into the equation.
A body at rest stays at rest. And, a body in motion stays in motion. Something has to provide the starting energy or the stopping energy.
That energy needs to come from you. From each of us. It takes energy to maintain relationships and to do things for people and to make a difference in the world.
What kind of energy? Just making an effort to do something different. For example, reaching out and asking for help, or giving some help, or offering your support.
It all starts with you, and things will come back to you, because of how life works.
Life gives you what you put into it.
If you think you have nothing to give, you are wrong. That’s what most people think.
That is why you must change your mindset. Change how you think.
Exploring My Own Mind and Mindset Training
For all those questions I had about life, the only place I hadn’t looked for answers yet, was inside me. And even though I have always been an intuitive person ever since I was a kid, I needed someone’s help to guide me at first. I needed that outside influence.
We don’t know what we don’t know.
That’s what Fred did for me. A guide and a coach.
Anyone can pick up and swing a golf club naturally, but you need someone in the beginning to show you the technique(s) of doing it right, and then you can go practice yourself.
You don’t have to see a professional counselor or a therapist. All you need is someone who can help you from a different perspective or to help add structure and substance to your own patterns of thought. This can be a life-coach, a mentor, or just a good friend and confidant who has achieved results that you want to achieve.
Like a weight-lifting partner who can spot you, or a trainer who can work with you. You wouldn’t be able to reach certain levels without some help.
Leaders are readers. I am reading 3 or for sometimes 5 books at a time. AI am always reading, studying learning.
If you want to make significant changes in your life, you will need to change your mindset and maybe learn some new skills too.
The 4 Most Dangerous Words in Life:
“I already know that.”
You’ll never learn about the meaning of life if you don’t live life. Part of living life is learning and experiencing new things, seeing things from different perspectives, changing things up.
Sometimes you need a change of scenery or a significant life-event to happen in order for these changes to happen.
One of my mentors in life told me a long time ago that you can’t get out of a situation using the same kind of thinking that got you into the situation.
If you have followed my blog or video journals even for the shortest time, you’ll know that most of my trainings and subject-matter center around changing how you think, and mind-set training.
All the significant “Aha!” moments in life and life transformations come when you learn to think differently.
Many people find out what the meaning of their life is when they get older because they waited that long to start thinking differently. Don’t wait that long. You can figure it out now, and then you’ll have the rest of your life to enjoy with lots and lots of fulfillment and meaning doing exactly what you want and what you’re supposed to be doing.
I could go on and on. But I don’t want to write too much more as I could write forever.
My parting thought for you on the topic of What is the Meaning of Life is:
Unlike Jacques Cousteau or Carl Sagan, I believe the last frontier to be explored which holds the most meaning for us is in the deepest regions of the space between our ears. All the answers are there.
I would love to hear what your perspectives are on the meaning of life below.
Till next time,
Wishing you Health Wealth and Happiness!
Lambert Matias, Founder – Evantage E-Team
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